By Htun Tin Htun
Make plans to be happy. Those who fail to plan, plan to fail. Just like in any other life domain, the successful pursuit of happiness requires planning.
Appreciate what you have and be grateful. We all have many choices in life one of which is whether to focus on all the things we don’t have (of which there might be many), or to focus on all the things we do have. There’s no doubt, that gratitude and appreciation will significantly increase your chances of experiencing happiness.
Keep a look out for new ways to approach life and to have fun. With regard to enjoying the senses in daily life, that we should clearly understand three things: 1) the delightfulness of sensuality (refers to the five senses-visible object, sound, smell, taste and tangible object) or sense enjoyment; 2) the evil consequences of sensuality; 3) the freedom or liberation from sensuality. The pleasant sensation, joy and happiness that arise from contact with these sense objects represent the delightfulness of sensuality. (Be curious)
Ensure you gain adequate sleep and rest. It’s difficult to be happy if you’re constantly tired and struggling to find enough energy to get through the day and to assist with this, regularly practice relaxation and/or meditation strategies. We must strive to develop the right concentration first by tranquillity meditation in order to have the ability to undertake insight meditation correctly and effectively.
Happy people tend to believe they’re more in control of their lives. In doing so, they’re more likely to take an active approach to solving problems. If something’s not quite right in your life, do something. And further, make sure that what you’re doing is important. Put first things first. (Manage your time and priorities).
As well as pleasure and enjoyment, satisfaction is also an important part of happiness. So make sure that when you’re planning your tasks and activities you include things that might not be fun, but from which you’ll gain a sense of achievement. (Set yourself tasks from which you’ll gain Satisfaction).
Plant happier, optimistic thoughts. There are two parts to developing helpful, optimistic thinking. The first is to weed out unhelpful negative thoughts and the second is to plant more positive, optimistic ones. This is essentially a skill, and like any other skill becomes easier and more effective with practice.
Play and have fun. Don’t take life too seriously. Although we all have responsibilities there’s no reason why we can’t approach much of our lives in a playful manner. In fact, those who do so will undoubtedly be happier.
Invest time and energy in to your key relationships. Happy people spend more time working on and in their relationships. Happy people tend to be more supportive of other people in their life. Happy people are more generous and altruistic.
Nothing is impossible to one with 4 Ws such as Wish to do, Will (mind), Work hard (effort) and Wisdom to make happiness a priority. If happiness is not at the top of your list then other things will take precedence. If other things take precedence, they may well interfere with your efforts to feel good. (Make happiness a priority).
Eat well, sleep well, walk well, sit well, stand well, work well, relax well, rest well, keep active, and exercise regularly .Although not impossible, it’s difficult to be happy if you’re constantly sick and not very healthy. (Live a healthy life)
Set happy goals. Planning (What, Who, When, Where, Why and How) requires effective goal setting. And don’t forget to make sure your goals are SMART (specific, measurable, achievable, relevant and timed). 5 As (Awareness, Advocacy, Assessment, Analysis and Action) can be used in good planning.
Socialise and interact with others as much as possible. Happy people have both more and better quality relationships. So working to improve the quality of your relationships, it’s also worthwhile working to improve the number of your relationships.
Accept what you can’t control. And learn to be wise enough to know the difference. Family happiness can be enjoyed only while favorable conditions exist; it turns to grief and despair when conditions change to the worst. Note that all conditioned things are unsatisfactory and suffering. (Control what you can control).
People mostly simply forget to do things from which they gain pleasure. And do them as often as possible. Whenever we think of performing a meritorious deed, or while we are mindful of performing a meritorious deed, our thoughts are free from sensuous desire, ill will and cruelty. So we have the right thought. That is the reason why the Buddha advises his disciples not to be forgetful but to perform meritorious deeds until they can complete the important task of purifying their minds (Do things that make you happy).
Remember that the Dalai Lama has been quoted saying that “The central method for achieving a happier life is to train your mind in a daily practice that weakens negative attitudes and strengthens positive ones.” Learn first to identify your thoughts and then begin to challenge those that are negative and unhelpful. To avoid evil. To do good. To purify the mind. Be good to others. Keep our mind pure. Be endowed with right mindfulness, effort and wisdom. Keep our planet green. (Weed out unhelpful thoughts).
Identify where your strengths lie. Know where your faults and weaknesses are to avoid problems. Know where your strengths lie to be really happy and to succeed in life. SWOT (Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities, and Threats) Analysis will be useful.
Only moment in which we can truly be happy is the present moment. The only moment over which we have control is the present moment. The author, Henry Miller once said “Every moment is a golden one for him who has the vision to recognise it as such.” So be happy now! Because if not now, then when? (Live in the present moment).
Remind yourself however you can to do what you need to do and reward yourself as often as possible for doing what you’ve done. Develop happiness routines and make them a part of your everyday living. (Make happiness an integral part of your life)
Ideally to love yourself and learn to like. We must love before we can be loved. To love others and to be loved by others is a key component of happiness. Kindly note and keep 5 Ls (Live, Learn, Like, Love, Legacy) for happy living.
To utilise your strengths. Although we all can and should endeavour to improve in areas in which we’re weak there’s just as much, if not more, to be gained from focusing on the maximal utilisation of your strengths (including all your positive qualities and attributes). Always keep 5As (Ambition, Authority, Attitude, Audacity and Appearance) for your happiness.
Your happiness is the ultimate purpose in life; happiness is achievable, for all of us
happiness is determined more by our minds than by our circumstances. The disciplines that will lead to and enhance happiness (such as helpful thinking and good habits) can be learned and mastered, with practice. No one is perfect, but practice makes perfect.
Reference: “The Noble Liberation and The Noble Truths”, By Professor Dr. Mehm Tin Mon; 20 Simple Tips To Be Happy Now, By Dr. Timothy Sharp, Author of “The Happiness Handbook” Founder of The Happiness Institute.